HELLO THERE I’M BACK!!! So between my 6-week shoulder surgery recovery, holidays, moving, and career upheaval, the past few months have lacked any sort of semblance of a routine. I went to bed when I wanted, woke when I wanted, got happy hour and stayed up […]
The fact that aloha means both hello and goodbye seems accurate right about now — these past few weeks have included waves of both, peppered with joy in anticipation for the new and the next, yet coupled with the nostalgic ache for what is now past. Friends, it is true. Finally, ten years […]
I think the one of the most important post-college lessons (besides how to do my taxes, make a big city move, and navigate the public transportation system, among others) is learning how to make friends as an adult.
No one really prepares you for the oh-shoot! moment when you realize all of your BFFs are scattering, you among them.
Gone are the days of assigned classroom seating, playgroups, and high school swim team. And unfortunately, gone are the days of the cast your cares to the wind, simple wanna be my friend? moments in the sandbox– we’ve all been a little battered and bruised by relationships gone awry.
Our hearts don’t trust like they used to in kindergarten.
Graduating college, moving to a new city, starting a job, ending a relationship– these can be lonely times. As personal as these transitions are, they beg for company. They hunger for someone to celebrate with, to rejoice with, or simply sit with in our hurt or sadness, and to deliver the occasional batch of cookies.
We humans crave authenticity, a safe space to open up and just be. And what a beautiful thing it is when we find it!
Growing a community, building friendships takes time, effort, and oftentimes the very energy we are so lacking because of work or life struggles. But just like water (and quality cupcakes), these genuine friendships are crucial to our well-being. They help satisfy our souls.
And as with little potted plants on our windowsill or a field of grapes for wine, they are cultivated with love and care.
Last weekend I learned it was possible to make peace with San Diego. I learned it was possible to add another home to my list of homes, three of the most beautiful places in America (I’d like to think, at least). I learned it was possible to drop the […]