Life Lately: Let It Feel Good

July 1, 2016

Mid-July marks my six month anniversary of my move to San Francisco. July 16, if we want to be exact.

(And if you’ve been reading along for the past six months, you may be dang tired of me writing about and talking about my move– but sorry not sorry, this topic isn’t going away any time soon.)

But today instead of waxing poetic on my love for my city, my home, I’m going to talk about enjoyment.

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Blown away by the bay

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If I Am Being Honest, I Would Tell You This

June 23, 2016

I’ve noticed how easy it is to forget how to be alone.

You may not believe me if I told you, but I actually fall more into the category of introvert. In this case, introvert to me means this: I obtain my energy, I find rejuvenation, in solitude.

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Five months ago, when my move to the city was new and fresh, I said yes to everything: weeknight concerts, dinners and lunches and happy hour mixers. Work projects and freelance projects and weekend trips. Dates. Visitors. Bumble.

I said yes to pretty much everything except to being alone.

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The Cure for Perfectionism

May 25, 2016

Hi, my name is Avery and I am a recovering perfectionist.

(I know I am not alone.)

Many of us suffer from perfectionism the way one suffers from a never-ending flu: we can’t stomach our inadequacies and burn fevers of not-good-enough, we toss up our flaws like we’re tossing up our cookies.

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There’s no harm in self-improvement. But this constant striving and reaching for unattainable goals, our pursuit of perfect, well it is a disease.

It is killing our joy. It’s killing us.

So what is the cure? Okay, the truth is this: I don’t have the answer.

But I’ve been searching, I’ve been trying. Because to be honest? I am exhausted– I am tired of sitting in this space of if only  and I wish  and maybe if I didn’t and maybe if I wasn’t.

Friends, are you tired of striving? Are you drained, are you spent from keeping up the charade? I know I am.

Thankfully, there is hope. There is sweet relief.

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Let’s Get Real: A Social Media Challenge

May 23, 2016

Hi friend, how was your weekend?

I don’t know how you filled your days: parties and road trips, dinners late into the night? Plane flights, final destinations, plans plans plans. Maybe you worked. Did you sleep in or are you scraping by on power naps, late nights, early mornings? Hangovers. Time to yourself, cuddles on the couch, cooking in the kitchen. Did you finally crack the spine of your new book, call your sister, or take a long run near the ocean?

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True life: caught on my phone more than I’d like to be

As full as your Saturday and Sunday was, or wasn’t, I want to ask you this instead.

How is your heart?

Sure we can post pretty pictures and Snapchat the heck out of dance parties and clinking glasses and hiking trails in the middle of the woods. We can surround ourselves with faces and warm bodies and lose ourselves in Netflix, bottles of wine, attention from that one guy, and weekend plans.

But at the end of the day, how is your heart. Is it aching? Is it lonely, or is it full?

I’ve been asking myself some hard questions lately, taking some time over these past two weeks to create space to really dive in to some internal work I’ve been putting off during the excitement of my move. And now I want to invite you along.

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